How to Get Your Husband to Stop Looking at Porn: 14 Steps

Link: => terealliter.nnmcloud.ru/d?s=YToyOntzOjc6InJlZmVyZXIiO3M6MzY6Imh0dHA6Ly9iYW5kY2FtcC5jb21fZG93bmxvYWRfcG9zdGVyLyI7czozOiJrZXkiO3M6MzI6IldoeSBkb2VzIG15IGh1c2JhbmQgbG9vayBhdCBwb3JuIjt9


All I know is that porn makes me feel sick, and if all the men in the church are actively fighting a porn addiction… I feel quite set in my decision to never marry again. Maybe you have been stuck in a rut lately. Am I too sensitive about this? You are right to be sickened by it as it reduces the God given gift of sexuality to an idol to be worshiped and commodity to be traded.

I work full time, hold down a set of toddler twins, and a 16yr old, up by 5am have breakfast,lunch and dinner cooked all before I leave to work 8am, the physical demands on my body leave me exhausted. The other issue is that for true repentance and healing to take place, your husband must go farther than what you think about his porn. I love him to bits and have been married over 20 years with 3 children but I feel now that I don't know him as well as I thought.

Husband Looks at Other Women

Hi I hope you don't mind me posting on here but I thought that maybe a man's perspective on this is what why does my husband look at porn needed as I'm at a complete loss. This is a diffiuclt question because we all have different ideas on what is normal when it comes to sex etc but I feel very confused and just want to talk to someone about this. I apologise in advance if my story is long but I want to try and get all the facts across. About 18 months ago I came across a gay porn video 2 men having intercourse. My first reaction was that maybe it was my eldest son being curious he was about 17 at the time so I deleted it. I told my husband about it and he agreed with me that perhaps it was just curiosity of our son. I didn't come across anymore until 6 months later. I was a little annoyed Why does my husband look at porn admit but I've always been open minded when it comes to porn. That was until I saw that a lot of the links were to gay porn. There were so many hits it was obvious it wasn't a one off curiosity stop and I also realised that perhaps what I'd found 6 months previous was not my son afterall but my husband and he'd let me think it was our son. When I challenged him about it he insisted that he hadn't been looking but that he'd been flicking through a porn site and that he hadn't actually viewed them. I wasn't sure and therefore didn't feel I could challenge him further. Now some of you may disagree with my next move but I needed to be sure of my facts so I installed a web programme that recorded everything that went on. For a long while he was just visiting what are normal porn sites - you know man and woman, plain old ordinary sex. I began to relax and considered removing the programme. Then about 4 months ago there was a change in pattern, he was looking at gay porn again. I can see exactly what he's been watching and for how long. He also watches a lot of anal sex - now whatever floats your boat, not my cup of tea. What concerns me though is why is he watching men with men - oh and he also goes on photography sites and searches for gay pictures. Is he bisexual but too afraid to tell me, is he too afraid to admit him to himself. I've seen no evidence of him contacting other gay men and it seems it is purely voyeuristic. As I've tried twice already to talk to him about it and he's denied it point blank I don't know what else to do. Please feel free to ask me any questions. I really do want to understand this. I love him to bits and have been married over 20 years with 3 children but I feel now that I don't know him as well as I thought. If it only happened a few times where he accidentally clicked the wrong link, i would believe he was telling the truth but obviously that hasn't. He just seems to be exploring his other side online. You should confront him by asking him if he also into men and that it is ok so he feels like you will understand him. That should make him feel more comfortable and maybe give you a straight answer. If he says no, then i'd throw the recent history of gay porn he's been looking at and have him explain that. I'd rather we could sit and discuss it calmly but sad to say I can't see that happening. I'm going to have to do some serious thinking : He may be curious or he may be experimenting with why does my husband look at porn sexuality. There are quite a few married men with a gay or bi streak in them, I'm afraid, and the real damage here comes if he's actually acting on it. First off theres the infidelity part and secondly there's the chance that he might pick up some disease from one of these guys if he is indeed trying to meet other men. But in order to even get into that discussion you need to talk with him and I would honeslty think at this point the only thing you can do is confront him with the evidence you have. I don't really see how else you can proceed. It's obviously bothering you, it's something he seems to be hiding from you and unwilling or unable to admit to you or himself, and theres a real risk that if he acts on these desires he might catch something from one of them and then turn it over to you. It's possible he hasn't been acting on these desires of his, as you say you havent' seen anything to make you think he has, but it's also possible that he has in the past or will in the future. Especially if he thinks he can get away with it. I would pick a night when the two of you are home alone together and bring it up as calmly and logically as possible. Try not to get angry or upset and try to explain yourself and what you're feeling as clearly and concisely as possible. He may be more open to a discussion about it if he doesn't feel threatened or embarassed or angry. Yeah, it might be easier said than done but clearly you can't just not do anything. And since he's lying to you about it already I'd say your desire to know the truth about who he is and if he's cheating on you takes precedence over his ego. I think most people straight or gay probably have a hint of the other in them - like they're not 100% one thing, but maybe 80-95% one thing with a little of the other, and then there are those who are truly bi-sexual and are right in the middle. So for your husband to be curious about homosexual sex certainly does not make him wierd or unusual. Of course, the other variable is what anyone does about that streak, which could lie anywhere between ignoring it and suppressing it, acknowledging its existence but not following it at all, viewing porn, having affairs, leading a dual life, whatever. My guess, most likely, is that your husband acknowledges he's got a hint of this, he's turned on by the idea of gay sex, and he's addressing this urge by visiting gay websites. You said that most of the porn he visits is straight, which suggests that, even in his porn habits, he's mostly straight. Visiting these websites may be his way of accepting and addressing this urge in a way that doesn't risk damaging your relationship and your marriage, because he's not actually doing anything with anyone else. It gives him an outlet for it which is pretty much harmless. How you react to this, what you should do about it, I can't really advise. You said that you're open-minded about him looking at porn generally - can you find it within yourself to be open-minded about this too. That this is an outlet for him that minimises any harm to you and your marriage. Whether you choose to discuss it with him, or keep quiet, only you can decide. I seriously wouldn't worry too much. I am female and I get a buzz from lesbian porn. Not that I would do it in real life, it is just a fantasy. As sammy73 has summed up, people are curious by nature. I would personally be more worried if it was a porn site dedicated to children in porn. Now that is something that is not tolerable to me or 99. I suspect it is just curiosity of something 'naughty' that gets him going. The problem is there's no way of knowing if that's as far as it goes unless they can have an honest and open discussion about this without him denying it left and right. And of course there are inherent dangers and problems if he's stepping outside the marriage with men or women. It could be just curiosity or it could just be more. I used to work the desk at a cheap motel and you'd be surprised or maybe not how many married men have mid-day encounters with other men. In the gay community married man are somewhat of a hot item.

I believe it's the fact that we communicated that allowed us to come to an agreement that suits us both. In my limited knowledge and experience, keeping a watchful eye for behavioral changes and communicating are very important first steps. Now that is something that is not tolerable to me or 99. That person is now using the naked and oppressed instead of rescuing and clothing her. I do not think a Christian can be a porn addict, and I dont even like that they call it an addiction because it suggests that the person doing it, has no choice, that they are helpless victems. I know you were shocked at his admission and he may have interpreted your silence as judgment or anger. He is cheerful and attentive the day after. Asking him about it brought rage and condemnation toward me. Let's compare them to movie and television actors. Why do you need the volume on.